Dad How Was Work?
Now, before I continue painting a picture of frustration, it is necessary for you to understand that these three years of disappointment also marked one of my most productive periods at work. What I now realize looking back is that, “Yes Dorothy, you can be productive and frustrated at the same time, but given a choice, why would you want to?” This inner dialogue jarred something inside me and helped to propel my journey back. It began with the realization that my unhealthy work relationship did not respect the bounds of my cubicle. No, this association followed me home each night and negatively impacted all my other environments. And, if life were not yet done with its irony, I soon realized that I was the ONE at fault. You see, somewhere in the journey to becoming lost, I developed an expectation that my job owed me the joy, curiosity, energy, and engagement that my soul so desperately sought, and this is why ignorance is bliss.
Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally. — Eckhart Tolle
Like Eckhart Tolle states, we have but three decisions when confronted with frustration: move, change or accept. I chose to change, and here is how. Each of us is 100% responsible for how we show up in our environments. It is incumbent on us to generate all that we seek and radiate it outward. We need to do the work on the inside, so that the outside world becomes a reflection of the very thing we wish to see. The process of change starts with going within and this was true for me. What I found is that we are given a brief moment called life, to impact others on the way to discovering our personal legend. I had wasted enough of mine in those three years, and it was time to do the work by punching in and changing how I showed up. I know it sounds simple, but believe me, the changes and impact were dramatic both at work and home.
If you believe it is time to change the direction and impact of your nightly conversations and be 100% present and not lost in your recap of the day, then I urge you to start today by examining how you’re showing up. Start by journaling and observing your thoughts, first to build awareness. We can only change what we made aware of and move from subconscious automatic responses to conscious and proactive decisions.